Copyright (c) 2010 Willie Horton
First of all, we all know what the title means – children’s lives toyed with by teachers, children bullied in the schoolyard and employees bullied in the workplace. We’re all aware of domestic violence, psychological violence in the home and the workplace and the manner in which Governments play with people’s lives probably demands a whole article – or book – of its own. But that is not what this article is about.
If you are “normal” – and there’s a 96% chance that you fall into this category – you are playing with the lives of others in a manner that is damaging both you and them and you’re not even aware of it. The so-called normal person uses the tiniest fraction of their attention to attend to the reality of the here and now. In fact, our attention is subconsciously elsewhere – normally being entertained by the shadows of a past long gone. These are, indeed, shadows cast across our perception of everyday reality – influencing our view of ourselves, influencing our self-esteem, our self-confidence and influencing our perception of others – from nearest and dearest to our casual acquaintances. We operate in these shadows, constantly in reactive mode. The normal person never sees the light – only a reflection of the light masked and marred by these inner shadows.
Therefore, our behavior, not a bad thing, our response, rather than behavior. We can see that interaction with others, we believe that who is there – rather than actual people. To our children to speak the small one-time thing, which they shadow, they will be made. Response to our efforts in this blind way, shape who we ask those who love to respond to blind pursuit of their own ways, they also develop into normal adults. Through our stupidity, we are blind toy with the lives of others.
Your partner, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, in fact, only in the shadow of your eyes because of their former self, once the new friends, love the novelty has disappeared, once familiar to us, we will be They are classified into the box and respond to them, we have become accustomed to – the people, we think we know people. As the old saying goes: familiarity breeds contempt, may be ways to treat others who claim to love the normal work.
As normal people it is not our fault that we behave in this way. This senseless state is our standard state of mind, it's the way we built the way that sustains us in our normal, mundane life. But while it may not be our fault, it is our responsibility. We have a responsibility, misbehaving in the first place to ourselves, and then to those whose lives we touch, stop to see us, as we are truly to see and consciously interact with people around us in a , caring manner. Look at us as we really are, we will be others for what they actually see – we are our own prejudices, drop our reactive behavior, we will be the novelty of each new moment had come to recognize experience and that nothing is known, for every new moment is unique.
To see ourselves as we really are, we have to step out of the shadows of our formative years – we have to step into the light. The shadows will neither go away nor diminish – we simply have to avoid giving them our attention. And, as you might be beginning to understand, seeing ourselves for who we really are and, then, seeing others in a similar light is all about paying attention – paying attention to the unique reality of the moment, one moment at a time. Not only does this free us from our own misconceived ideas, our own perceived inadequacies, not only does it enable us to see others in a different and real light, it enables us see the opportunities that abound in our lives. It enables us to see the light, rather than the dark, side of life.
Paying attention to each new moment, experiencing a first time every time, is achieved through a conscious decision on your part to turn your attention to what you are truly experiencing now – as distinct from what you think you are experiencing. This is done through the only interface that you have with the outside reality of the moment – your body and its five senses. In order to see the light you truly have to come to your senses. As normal adults we have become desensitized – we don’t realize that our body is feeding us back a mass on data every moment – we don’t notice the taste in our mouths, the feelings in our legs and arms. A client, having gone through a particularly bad patch in business and having started to pay attention all over again, told me one morning that he had heard the birds sing – but the birds sing every day, we just don’t notice.
Is the key to live in full awareness. Is the key to happiness and success to create a comfortable experience here now. Currently focusing on real, live rich and wealthy key – your life in every sense of these words, I live to free your mind has always meant to live. In doing so, help the lives of others.